Dating and dad and daughter

This attitude towards dads is all part of a culture which sees men stuck in a rut of pseudo masculinity.As the guy showed up at the house for the first date, this dad went to get his daughter, only to find her in her bedroom closet in tears, with anxieties about the date, the guy and how to manage her conflicting emotions.It was one of those father and daughter moments that this dad would never forget.We’ve raised them to seek their identity in the things that matter and not in the superficial, so they are somewhat intimidating to young men. But sooner or later a boy of equal substance was going to show up, and now he has. They both have busy schedules, but if they aren’t learning or working, they are in our home.They love to cook together in our kitchen and try out new recipes.Why do we call it ‘babysitting’ when a dad is active in childcare?Why are we surprised that the person who helped create the child then deigns to spend time with it? How many mums would be delighted to have the opportunity for that kind of time with her child.I’d like to take this moment to remind everyone that being treated ‘like a princess’ would actually involve being married off at the age of 12 to a man you’ve never met to secure a political alliance.Also, if you want to raise a woman who has a healthy attitude towards men, giving her one afternoon a month where she has to look pretty before she’s given treats? But there’s a bigger issue at play here than playing fast and loose with the concept of ‘dating’ and that’s the people who are queuing up to congratulate a man for spending some time with his kid. Do we see mothers getting 89 thousand Facebook likes for mopping up sick and doing the school run? What do we go nuts for fathers spending time with their kids?They turn on the music and sing, dance, and make a bunch of the healthy-type of food that is so popular today. Interestingly, this young man is aggressive in his desire for me to know him and vice versa.This isn’t at all the new modern type of teenage dating where they hang out in groups and go through levels of “talking.” What’s taking place is a good old fashioned courting process.