They are out there, and they are actively looking for a nice woman.
The problem with this thinking is that many people categorically assume that if he’s a “good guy,” he’s the They believe that if he means well and seems to generally have his ducks in a row, that’s all that matters.
No, not because I am attracted to the dangerous allure of “bad boys” (OK, well, sometimes).
She has found more than one, but she always sabotages the relationship because she expects the nice guys to behave with what she calls normal.
In reality, she wants a nice guy who will not be alarmed if she acts like she does with the bad boys.
” which often precludes, “Let’s set you up with him,” now makes me cringe.
While I too used to fall for this "good guy" cure-all, the description of, “He’s such a good guy!
What makes him a jerk is when it doesn't work out, he comes back to you until he finds his next conquest. A Jerk Is A Narcissist Who Wants His Way In Every Situation He'll manipulate you into doing what he wants to do even when you say NO. A Jerk Treats Service People Poorly If he takes you to his favorite restaurant and his meal shows up wrong, he'll blast the poor waiter with his anger. A good guy knows things can go awry and gives someone a chance to correct it. A Jerk Takes You To A Party And Leaves You At The Door To Fend For Yourself A good guy will introduce you to the people he knows in the room and will make sure you're taken care of with food, drinks and people to talk to. A Jerk Only Cares About Having His Needs Met Your needs fall far below his on the priority list. A Jerk Is Usually Passive Aggressive If you're trying to work an issue out, he'll act like everything is okay.
When you give in, you end up feeling like you betrayed yourself. A good guy is into pleasing you and making you happy. He'll get with other people and he'll bad mouth your decision looking for confirmation from others that he's right.
HIS MATURITY LEVEL What I’m referring to here is “emotional” maturity.
You can find out about this rather quickly when you meet a guy simply by observing how he reacts to things and how he treats the people around him.